We spoke to Edith King, a Licensed Professional Counselor, Author, Adjunct Professor, and Owner of King Counseling Services. Ms. King earned her Bachelor of Science in Psychology at East Stroudsburg University and her Master of Arts in Clinical Counseling at Eastern University. Ms. King has worked in the human service field for close to a decade and is committed to helping people grow in self-awareness, self-love, and authenticity to aid them in influencing their worlds with intention. Her debut book ‘My Peace is Most Important’ is a devotional that is helping individuals learn to have more healthy relationships with themselves and teaching them how to prioritize their peace. Edie’s motto and life commitment is to ‘help, heal, and serve’ and she does that in her professional, personal, and philanthropic efforts. For more information visit www.edieRking.com or follow her at @TherapyWithEdie.
Leaning into courage in relationships is not always an easy task but with some guidance and practice, Edie shares some tips and ideas in learning how to navigate this concept. Edie also comments on the power and strength it takes to practice courage with your partner. She validates that although it may not be easy, being courageous in how you interact and communicate with your partner can help create a healthy and fulfilling relationship of trust and safety.
Tips For Leaning Into Courage
Self-awareness: Being honest with yourself about who you are - good, bad, and different - and still choosing to show up. Practicing awareness of self in conjunction with all life experiences and overcoming doubt, insecurity and fear can help create space to be courageous with your partner.
Safety: Understanding who you are with, what is your environment and assessing if it is safe to practice courage. Example: Is this person safe and are they capable of holding space for me while I lean into bravery and be courageous.
Understanding personal triggers: Learning the root of where your triggers come from and then learning to navigate them helps cultivate protective factors in being vulnerable with your partner.
Learn to be a safe person and how to hold space for others. When we provide a safe space and encourage others to be vulnerable and courageous with us, it helps model this behavior with the intent of it being reciprocated.
Respect your partner's boundaries in welcoming courage in the relationships. For example, ask your partner where they are when sharing important and personal information. When sharing and engaging in complex discussions we want to ask if our partner has the space to hold “our stuff.”
🤔Truth or dare: This can sound silly, but creating space to ask your partner certain questions or different tasks can allow for a fun way in cultivating courage in a relationship.
❓ 20 questions with your partner: create a list of 20 questions you would like answered by your partner. Discuss rules and limits around the questions and have fun gaining new info about your partner.
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